Gaslighting 101: Spot It and Stop It

If you’re reading this, you are already on the right path to becoming a better, stronger you. Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that’s super important but often misunderstood – Gaslighting. Now, don’t worry if that word makes you think of old-timey street lamps or a catchy Bruno Mars song. We’re here to shed light on what gaslighting really means, how to identify it, and most importantly, how to deal with it like the pro you are. So grab a cuppa, sit back, and let’s get into it!

What Is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where one person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in another person, making them question their own memory, perception, or sanity. Basically, it’s when someone tries to convince you that your version of reality is incorrect, and theirs is the only true and correct one.

This term comes from a 1938 play (and later, a movie) called “Gaslight” where a husband manipulates his wife into believing she is losing her mind. Charming, right?

Signs of Gaslighting

1. Denial: The gaslighter will flat out deny saying or doing something, even if you have proof.
2. Discrediting: They will question your memory, your thoughts, and even your sanity.
3. Diverting: Changing the subject, questioning your thoughts, or criticizing you are all tactics to divert attention away from their behavior.
4. Generalizations: They often use broad and vague statements, such as “You always…” or “You never…”.
5. Trivializing: They may minimize your feelings or needs, often suggesting that you’re overreacting or too sensitive.
   

How To Deal With Gaslighting

1. Know The Signs: Now that you know the signs, it’s easier to identify gaslighting when it happens. Knowledge is power!
2. Trust Your Instincts: If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Trust your gut feelings and don’t let someone else convince you otherwise.
3. Seek Validation: Sometimes talking to a friend, family member, or therapist can provide much-needed perspective and validation.
4. Set Boundaries: It’s important to set boundaries with the person who is gaslighting you. Let them know that their behavior is not acceptable and that you won’t tolerate it.
5. Practice Self-Care: Be kind to yourself. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

There you have it, friend! You are now armed with the knowledge and tools you need to identify and deal with gaslighting. Remember, it’s important to trust yourself, seek support if needed, and always practice self-care.
You got this!

Let’s end gaslighting together, one step at a time.